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No contact day 28: four weeks
Four weeks. For shorter relationships this is around where the acute phase genuinely ends; for longer ones it's a checkpoint rather than a finish.
What goes wrong on day 28
Treating a number you chose a month ago as an expiry date, and reopening contact because a timer ran out rather than because you want the outcome.
None of that is a prediction about you specifically. Day 28 looks different depending on how long you were together, who ended it, and how many times you've tried before — this is the shape it takes most often, and the part of it worth preparing for.
One thing to do today
Ask the honest question: what would contact be for? If the answer is 'to see', that's the loop asking, not you — and it's worth deciding your next line before day 30 arrives.
A slip costs a day. The spiral after it — "I've ruined it, why bother" — is what costs the month. If today didn't go the way this page describes, that's information about which door is still open, not a verdict on whether you can do this.
Where you actually are on day 28
Two minutes of honest answers and the read gives you your real day count, the pattern you're in, and the hour that's likely to be hardest.
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